The basic question that begs to be answered is this’ what is more important for you?’ family life with husband and a child (children) or career. One can't have both and for a smart woman about whom this is addressed it should not be a difficult question.

 Nature has made it this way, and you can't change it by your intellect. Male and Female should be partners to sustain and perpetuate life on earth. It is the privilege of the female species to get pregnant and deliver the child. It is she who can and should nurse the baby. Until the baby is ready for the larger role like going to school it is naturally the mother who is its best and logical companion. Best because females have more patience than males and logical because she has nursed the baby for such a long time. Don’t you all remember it was your mother with whom you were so very comfortable all through your childhood? The man can only help during this period. Even if he is willing he can't get pregnant, he can't feed the baby and he lacks the temperament to be a good companion to the offspring for he has no such tender feelings. That is natural, physiological and hormone dependent.

The claim by some smart women in a magazine this week (incidentally in 'The Week') that it is difficult to find smart men shows how ignorant they are! Do they mean to say their fathers had no role in their growing up? They claim men feel insecure in the company of smart women. Do they think it is a woman who is the Judge, Jury and Executioner? Confidence, intelligence looks, these are not gender specific. Both man and woman can be and are all these.

Woman asks men to be smart, helping, understanding etc then why they show it by example?

Especially in countries like India where job is hard to come by why the craze for double income? One income is quite sufficent.Once you are husband and wife there need not be 'my income your income' arguement.And if after raising children is satisfactory the wife can go for some really useful social work since women understand society better.

As a medical doctor I know a couple of couples who claim they are unable to have a baby. In a particular case I had to ask them whether they knew what it takes to get a woman pregnant. I am not casual. I am never more serious. It so happens that these people get out of their house as early as 0700 in the morning and return by 2100 hrs.I told them that under these circumstances the marital life will be nonexistent and they having a child is quite difficult. Believe me when I say that the girl was generous enough to quit her job and she got pregnant within the next couple of months!

I am not against men helping out women whether in the kitchen or the house in daily chore or in grooming their children it is always good to be doing these things together but specific tasks need specific person. For the intelligent or less intelligent women home is more important and the other way round for men. (I am not an MCP!)